Where To Go On A First Date

Your first date is about figuring out if you will find the person you have been communicating with online attractive or not. Don’t blow your budget on meeting a stranger who you may end up not liking.  Try to plan for a simple and cheap date that is fun and short at a public place that is conducive to conversation and bonding. You can always splurge on a longer and fancier second date.

Here are some of the places we would recommend for a quick and low-cost first date:

Coffee Shop  —  Meeting for a quiet coffee in a comfy place is an ideal first date. You can probably drown yourself in whatever beverage you order and it will still be inexpensive. With just two very hot (or cold) beverages between you, there’s nothing else to do except talk.

Bookstore — On the off chance that you and your date share the same passion for reading, hitting up a bookstore on a first date sets you on a speedy course to genuine romance. Point out your favorite books and why they’re important to you along the way. And, don’t forgo the Starbucks in the bookstore! Grab a hot beverage and a pastry, sit on the couch and talk.

Bar — The simplest and least stressful date is meeting for drinks at a bar where alcohol will surely reduce those first date nerves. A little buzz can make you feel more relaxed, confident and allow yourself to open up. But don’t drink beforehand and don’t have more than 2 drinks during your date.  Too much liquid courage can let your tongue get carried away. Just meet up for a quick drink and good conversation at a bar that isn’t too fancy, but isn’t too dive-y.

Ice Cream Shop —  For a casual and more relaxed date, then nothing can top meeting at an ice cream shop. Who in their right mind would say no to ice cream?

Attend a local festival or fair — Check local event calendars. It will be an inexpensive way to meet someone for the first time and allows you to interact with your date in ways a traditional date would not.

Walk Or Sit In The Park  — This must be the most inexpensive first date idea ever. If the temperature is unbearable, find a park area that is open after sunset for an evening walk or sit at a park bench and speak to your heart’s desire. You can also look up the event calendars of your local Parks and Recreation Department to find a list of activities like free plays, concerts and movies.

Dinner — Why do we not recommend dinner for first dates?  Dinner dates have a lot of disadvantages such as it’s too formal and expensive for meeting someone for the first time.  And, you cannot easily excuse yourself until the entire meal is over. It will be an awkward experience having to sit thru all that time pretending to like the other person, and carrying on a conversation you are no longer interested in pursuing.

 

Remember….

  1. You’re meeting a stranger.  Try to meet in a well-lit public place and tell someone close who you’re meeting and where. Also, let them know what time you expect to be home.
  2. Look your best, groom yourself and smell nice.
  3. Plan your outfit way ahead of time.  Don’t wear anything you will not be comfortable in.
  4. Don’t show up late.
  5. Don’t use your mobile device during the date.
  6. The other person is just as nervous as you are, so try not to be too stressed about it.
  7. Tell your date one thing good you noticed about them.
  8. Don’t talk too much. Make good eye contact, be attentive, don’t interrupt what the other person is saying and show an enthusiasm for what is being said. Everybody has an interesting story to tell.
  9. When asking questions….
    • Bear in mind that you’re meeting this person to see if you have a connection. Don’t treat it like a job interview.
    • Be flexible.  Let the conversation flow freely.
    • Don’t come across as arrogant such as you have better accomplishments or you’re a hot date.
    • Ask questions that will help you determine whether or not you will both be a good match.
    • Stay positive during your conversation. Don’t be Ms. or Mr. Gloom And Doom.
  10. It’s the millennium, offer to split the tab unless he or she insists on paying.
  11. If you don’t see a future romantic relationship between you, don’t be vague and don’t give the other person hope when you know full well you’ll be ghosting them. You would not like it if you were on the receiving end.  Instead, be honest and diplomatic and say something like “I don’t think I will be seeing you again”.

 

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