WHAT TO WEAR ON A FIRST DATE

First impressions are important and with a little wardrobe preparation you’ll feel better about yourself. You cannot easily change your body shape but you can control what you wear. Wear something comfortable that will make you feel beautiful and confident. Don’t wreck your chances at getting a second date. Choose your outfit wisely!

Here are some suggestions to help make your first date go smoothly and leave a lasting impression on your date.

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Check out the website of the venue.  This will give you a sense of what would be appropriate to wear for the type of setting.

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Pick a color you’re most complimented on.  Try not to experiment on a new color just because it’s the trend.  Choose a color that you’ve often been complimented on.

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Wear what you feel the most comfortable in. Never wear something that you don’t feel good in just to impress your date. You will feel more confident and more at ease if you wear clothes that are comfortable.  There’s nothing sexier than confidence. Avoid tight-fitting, low-cut neckline, and see-through clothing. Showing too much skin will distract your date from a meaningful conversation with you, and may give the wrong impression

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Show your assets.  Great arms?  Wear a strapless dress or sleeveless top.  Great legs?  Wear shorts or a skirt. Great arms but not great legs?  Wear a strapless maxi dress or a sleeveless top paired with dressy pants or jeans.  

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Prepare your outfit way ahead of time.  Ideally, you should have already picked out the outfit you’re going to wear, your makeup look, hairstyle, and accessories the day before your date.  This would make the day of your much anticipated first date less stressful.

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COLOR PSYCHOLOGY

Based on psychological studies, the color you wear has an immense power over your mood, attitude and how you’re perceived. Remember that the colors you wear not only influence you but also your date. Choose the color of your outfit consciously. Don’t overdo any color so it doesn’t overwhelm.  Wear colors that compliment your skin tone, eyes, and hair color.

Black is charming and enchanting.  It is the most flattering color hands down, so choosing it will make you look amazing.

White connotes peace, innocence, respect, trustworthiness and empowerment.

Red is the color of passion and sensuality. True to stereotype, men are attracted to women wearing the color red.

Blue is a favorite among both men and women. Roughly 33% of women and 57% of men said blue was on top of their list of favorite colors. Blue is soothing and comforting – great for a first date.

Pink is a great color for women for a casual first date. Its connotations are mostly healthy: pretty, feminine, babyish, sweet but also a person with extreme political views.

Green is a calming and compassionate color. Choosing a green outfit you will come across as a nice person with a positive outlook on life.

The colors you should absolutely never wear when trying to impress are yellow, orange and brown. Men do not generally like those colors.

Dark colors can be perceived as more formal and authoritative. Thus, they’re great for an evening date.

Light colors will make you appear friendly and approachable. Best for a daytime date.

Muted colors are conservative and less threatening. 

Bright colors convey confidence and energy. 

Contrasting colors can create a powerful image.  Pair different shades in terms of their intensity. 

The Evening Date

Wear your absolute favorite items. You’ll feel more confident in something you already know and love. Don’t go with trends but stick to your personal style. 

SHIFT DRESS

Our personal favorite is the shift dress — A timeless classic.  It’s not form fitting and yet its silhouette is flattering. It looks good on any body shape!  

The First Date white long sleeve shift dress!

 

Add a chic blazer to make it look fabulous.

DRESS PANTS

Dressy pants worn with a matching (or unmatching) top and heels can be very sexy and elegant.

Grab your favorite skinnies, add a chic jacket or blazer and wear heels!

SKIRTS

Unlike tight skinny pants or jeans, skirts feel very nice to wear as your legs have a lot more freedom. Most women probably own more skirts than pants whether it’s above-the-knee or maxi length.  If combined with a simple tee shirt they will look casual, and with a blouse and heels it can look a little more dressy. 

Wearing skirts, with heels, will make you look more feminine and more elegant.

SHORTS

Wanna look really cute and sexy?  Wear shorts!  Yes.  Shorts are appropriate for a first date as long as they’re the right kind of shorts. Pair it with an elegant matching (or unmatching) top.

You can’t go wrong with a dressy trouser shorts and stylish silk top, heels and accessories!

 

THE DAYTIME DATE

A daytime date calls for a relaxed look. Great for venues like a restaurant, coffee shop, bookstore or the movie theater. Your casual outfit should be dressy, not sloppy.

 

Pair a cute dress, denim shorts and jeans, and skirt with a casual jacket.

 

ACCESSORIES

Why do accessories matter?  Accessories can update the dull outfits and further emphasize your personal style.  The most understated  look can be transformed with the help of a few key accessories.  Make sure not to wear many items at once. Remember that jewelry is supposed to accessorize your outfit. Wearing too much of it distracts from the overall look.

Large earrings add that extra oomph to any outfit and bring attention to a pretty face.

EARRINGS

An updo, ponytail, braided or short hairstyle with chandelier earrings will draw attention to your face and make your neck look long and elegant.

The great thing about studs is that it is a go-to earring for any occasion. It will make your look complete and polished.

BRACELETS AND WATCHES

For an evening date, wear either an elegant bracelet or a watch. Don’t over do it by wearing both. For a daytime date, it’s been a long running trend to wear bracelet(s) and watch together as long as they’re made of leather, beads, chains, nylon and other casual-type materials.

 

 

SHOES!!!

Countless studies have shown that men find women in high heels to be more attractive.  High heels are the ultimate feminine accessory.  As heel height increases, men pay more attention to women — much much more attention. While walking in heels, women’s hips and buttocks sway more.  This increase in hip rotation and tilt make high-heeled females more attractive.  

High heels also make legs look longer, slimmer and accentuates an outfit with class and sophistication. They may also give you the height you need to feel extra confident.  As well as the style of the heel you choose, the height of heels will affect the comfort and fit of your shoe. The best heel height would be no more than 3-1/2 inches. Avoid sky high heels unless you’re a pro at walking in them.

EVENING

High-heel strap or slingback sandals, pumps and wedges are so sexy and fabulous.

DAYTIME

Espadrilles, high heel sandals and sneakers will make any casual outfit look cute if not stylish.

HAIRSTYLES

 Hair is such a crucial part of a woman’s look. Hairstyles are an essential part of first impressions. So when deciding on a hairstyle for your first date, consider testing different styles. Get a second opinion to help you determine what will look good on you. 

CURLY

The general consensus among men and women is that curly hair is the sexiest. The bounce in a woman’s curls are seductive and enticing.

Rake & Shake Method by hairstylist, Ouidad

How to curl your hair with a flat iron

STRAIGHT

Long straight hair is associated with femininity.  Straight hair is popular because it is able to look neat and tidy. Spritz a “smoothing spray” all over your damp hair before using any heat tools. This will prevent split ends and dryness while boosting shine. Also look for gloss-boosting products for extra shine.

BRAIDED

Braided hair gives the impression of total confidence, which many guys find very attractive. This hairstyle looks very elegant if worn with round chandelier earrings.

How to braid your own hair

UPDO

Oh the joys of pinning one’s hair up. It’s a grown up’s choice of hairstyle. It’s comfortable and sleek and keeps your hair away from your face to show off your makeup look.

PONYTAIL

Your ponytail says a lot about you. A low pony, if worn with a nice pair of earrings, is elegant, timeless, and best for an evening date. A high pony is casual and cute.

 

MAKEUP

If you’re not into the “barefaced” movement and you feel more confident wearing makeup, don’t over do it. Less is more.  And, make sure to pick the shade of makeup that will suit your skin tone.

Must-have makeup products:  Foundation, blush, and powderMascara, eye shadow, and eye liner. Lip color and lipliner. Eyebrow brush.

BEAUTIFUL NUDE MAKEUP LOOK

The secret to a flattering no-makeup makeup look is choosing colors that work with the natural tones of your face.

Here’s how to achieve the nude makeup look.

STUNNING BROWN MAKEUP LOOK

Stick to earth tones and other natural shades. Stick to shades close to your skin, lip, and hair colors.

CUTE PINK MAKEUP LOOK

The pink blushed nude makeup look is so romantic and clean. It features pink eyeshadow, a pinky-peach eye color, soft pink blush, and hot pink lipstick.

GORGEOUS SMOKEY GRAY MAKEUP LOOK

A smokey eye is a must in any girl’s makeup repertoire. Every woman knows that a smokey eye look is very sexy.

ALLURING RED

Based on robust studies, men are very attracted to the color red. A 2012 study found that waitresses who wore red lipstick receive the most tips from men. So, what are you waiting for? Find that red lipstick!

SCENT

Depending on the type of scent, wearing perfume or even eau de toilette might draw a guy closer or make him excited being around you, as long as it’s the perfume he will like. You can definitely use it to your advantage if you use a soft scent and not hide your natural scent. Too much perfume is a problem. Apply it an hour before you leave the house, and only use a small amount. 

Vanilla scent is known to have an aphrodisiac effect.

For a really subtle scent, a fragrant body lotion is generally the preferred choice of some people over perfume.  Whether it is behind an ear, behind a knee or a little on the back of your neck, the light scent is very attractive to men. It’s best to apply lotion immediately after a shower while skin is still slightly damp. 

My personal favorite is a vanilla-scented hydrating body lotion.

Not wearing perfume is also good if you shower within a few hours before your date and did not go out in the heat.

MINTS

Increase your chances of getting a first kiss by popping a few mints during your date.  But of course, don’t do it right in front of the other person.  Freshen up your makeup and your breath in the restroom.

Purse Essentials

Not sure what’s worth fitting into that tiny clutch? Should any particular circumstance arise, it’s very important to be prepared.

Don’t leave home without these!

Remember….

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You’re meeting a stranger.  Try to meet in a well-lit public place and tell someone close who you’re meeting and where. Also, let them know what time you expect to be home.

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Look your best, groom yourself and smell nice.

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Plan your outfit way ahead of time.  Don’t wear anything you will not be comfortable in.

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Don’t show up late.

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Don’t use your mobile device during the date.

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The other person is just as nervous as you are, so try not to be too stressed about it.

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Tell your date one thing good you noticed about them.

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Don’t talk too much. Make good eye contact, be attentive, don’t interrupt what the other person is saying and show an enthusiasm for what is being said. Everybody has an interesting story to tell.

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When asking questions….

1. Bear in mind that you’re meeting this person to see if you have a connection. Don’t treat it like a job interview.

2. Be flexible.  Let the conversation flow freely.

3. Don’t come across as arrogant such as you have better accomplishments or you’re a hot date.

4. Ask questions that will help you determine whether or not you will both be a good match.

5. Stay positive during your conversation. Don’t be Ms. Gloom And Doom.

6. It’s the millennium, offer to split the tab unless he insists on paying.

7. If you don’t see a future romantic relationship between you, don’t be vague and don’t give the other person hope when you know full well you’ll be ghosting them. You would not like it if you were on the receiving end.  Instead, be honest and diplomatic and say something like “I don’t think I will be seeing you again”.