At existdating.com our members’ experience is our top priority and we absolutely do not want you to be taken advantage of by any members. If you have had an unpleasant experience with one of our members, or feel a profile should not be on the site, please let us know immediately by email. That person or persons you report to us will never know your identity and the details of your concerns. Your information will be completely anonymous.
You can also block members right on your profile page just click on the “block” symbol.
On the website, login to your account. Then, using the SEARCH BY USERNAME button, type in the USERNAME of the member you would like to report or block and click submit.
Here are just some of the types of inappropriate behavior that you should report to us immediately:
- Asking you for money or donations.
- Requesting photographs.
- Minors using the platform.
- Members sending harassing or offensive messages or emails.
- Members behaving inappropriately during or after meeting in person.
- Fraudulent registration or profiles.
- Spam or solicitation, such as invitations to call 1-900 numbers or attempts to sell products or service.
Also, be aware of these common red flags. Be on the lookout for someone who:
- Immediately requests to talk or chat on an outside email or messaging service.
- Claims that your introduction was “destiny” or “fate,” especially early in communication.
- Claims to be from the U.S. but is currently living, working, or traveling abroad.
- Asks for money, goods or any similar type of assistance, especially if you have never met in person.
- Asks you to assist with personal transactions (depositing funds, shipping merchandise, etc).
- Wants the relationship to progress faster than you are comfortable going.
- Reports a sudden personal crisis and pressures you to provide financial assistance. Be especially wary if the person’s demands become increasingly aggressive.
- Asks inappropriate questions.
- Requests your home or work address under the guise of sending flowers or gifts.
- Tells inconsistent or grandiose stories.
- Gives vague answers to specific questions.
- Urges you to compromise your principles.
- Constantly blames others for troubles in his or her life.
- Insists on getting overly close, very fast.
- Claims to be recently widowed.
Disappears suddenly from the site then reappears under a different name.
Recognizing an Online Dating Scam Artist
The criminals who carry out romance scams are experts at what they do. They spend hours honing their skills and sometimes keep journals on their victims to better understand how to manipulate and exploit them.
“Behind the veil of romance, it’s a criminal enterprise like any other,” said Special Agent Christine Beining. “And once a victim becomes a victim, in that they send money, they will often be placed on what’s called a ‘sucker list,’ ” she said. “Their names and identities are shared with other criminals, and they may be targeted in the future.”
To stay safe online, be careful what you post, because scammers can use that information against you. Always use reputable websites, but assume that con artists are trolling even the most reputable dating and social media sites. If you develop a romantic relationship with someone you meet online, consider the following:
- Research the person’s photo and profile using online searches to see if the material has been used elsewhere.
- Go slow and ask lots of questions.
- Beware if the individual seems too perfect or quickly asks you to leave a dating service or Facebook to go “offline.”
- Beware if the individual attempts to isolate you from friends and family or requests inappropriate photos or financial information that could later be used to extort you.
- Beware if the individual promises to meet in person but then always comes up with an excuse why he or she can’t. If you haven’t met the person after a few months, for whatever reason, you have good reason to be suspicious.
- Never send money to anyone you don’t know personally. “If you don’t know them, don’t send money,” Beining said. “You will see what their true intentions are after that.”
If you suspect an online relationship is a scam, stop all contact immediately. And if you are the victim of a romance scam, file a complaint with the FBI’s Internet Crime Complaint Center.